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14 November 2012

Bangladeshi Rickshaw puller Helps the Poor


Bangladesh is one of the poorest and most corrupt countries in the world, and with that put in our mind; most of us look down upon our own kind.  Admit it or not, that is the plane ugly truth.  

We have this division of class in our own language.  There are 3 different ways of addressing a person based on their status of respect.   The most highly respected person is addressed by “apne” (translates to “you”).  The average person who is around your age or class would be addressed by “tumi” (translates to “you”).  The most informal and lowest class for mostly uneducated people is addressed by “tui” (also translates to you”).  Yea, they all mean “you”. 

The Rickshaw Puller builds a clinic

Quite ironic how we go around the world working among foreigners and complain about being discriminated, yet here we are taking a vacation to our motherland and calling out the rickshaw man across the street by “tui”.  No respect.  Even though that tired person might be your father’s age, and you are just half his age, it’s still “tui”.  “Tui jabi?” (You goin’?) “JABI?!” Sadly, this has generally been South Asia’s social norm.

Today I have an eye-opener story for people around the world, but most specifically for Bangladeshis and other desis of all ages to reflect upon.   I want to share one of the most inspirational stories of our times that awestruck me, about a rickshaw puller in Bangladesh.  A man who earned barely $6 on his “good days” for 14 tough years as a rickshaw puller in the insanely busy city of Dhaka, who made a free clinic that now treats hundreds of patients each day.  In addition, he provided a coaching center to educate underprivileged children.  He is Joynal Abedin, the loyal rickshaw puller.

Stop and think for a moment.  An old man who falls among the lowest and poorest level of class in one of the poorest countries in the world has accomplished a “world leader’s” task from scratch.  As Bangladeshi lawyer Nilufar Yesmin Biswas says, “Joynal Abedin is not only a man of golden heart, but also a slap on the faces of the greedy wealthy people of the country.”  I could not have expressed it any better!

The Story behind Joynal Abedin’s Dream

At age 30, Joynal Abedin’s doom’s day was marked on a dark rainy afternoon in his hometown called Taan Hashadia, Mymensingh, a northern village quite far away from Dhaka.  Joynal’s father had become extremely ill, so sick that he needed a doctor’s attention.  The big problem was, no nearby hospital or clinic existed where they lived.  The nearest medical center was 12 miles away, a 2-day’s walk.  He was a farm worker at the time with very little money and no source of transportation.  With the current circumstances in his life, he was unable to cure his father and so he passed away in his arms. 

The grief that followed his death kept haunting him.  He wanted to prove to others, but most importantly to himself, that he was not letting this go.  He didn’t want another individual to be in his place, seeing his/her loved one suffering and dying due to helplessness.  This was the beginning of his quest to providing a nearby free medical care center for the helpless.  Nothing was going to stop him now.

The Struggle behind Joynal Abedin’s Dream

Joynal Abedin and his wife, Lal Banu, left the village in Mymensingh after the devastating incident and came to the busy capital city of Dhaka.  With hardly any money in his pocket, no education, and cold sweaty hands, the man was overwhelmed by Dhaka’s lifestyle.

"When I landed in Dhaka it was a new experience for us. We were amazed by the size and energy of the city. Initially, we were not sure how we could survive there," remembered Mr. Abedin.

The couple struggled.  In search of employment, his wife finally was given the chance to work at a clinic.

Mr. Abedin was not qualified enough for any job and like many others in the country, he earned his living by becoming a rickshaw puller, “a job of shame” as most Bangladeshis would put it, and probably the hardest job especially in the capital city with its deadly street and air pollution, horrific unregulated traffic, road violence, and natural disasters.  Being honked, bullied, and verbally (sometimes even physically) abused by other road travelers and passengers while transporting passengers, heavy goods, sometimes animals,  even in the hot sweaty noon or dirty flash-flooded muddy roads were an every-day ritual Mr. Abedin went through for 14 long years.   A rickshaw puller’s one day worth of constant peddling gives no more than $6 a day, and that’s if he has luck.  There is no fixed rate when we travel in rickshaws, we always bargain.

Year after year, the family struggled, but even during their darkest times when money was most in need, the couple still managed to put aside a portion for savings.  Mr. Abedin says himself, "Sometimes my wife used to argue with me for not bringing enough money to run the family. But I always saved some money. Even during difficult times, I never touched my savings."

After 14 years of hard work, Mr. Abedin and his wife decided to go back to their village with their 2 young children and their life-long savings they had made in Dhaka,  a total of 2.84 lakh Taka, approximately $4,000. 

Joynal Abedin’s Big Move

It takes a lot of guts and a big heart to make “the move”.  The move that you had always clearly pictured in your dreams but the same one that society laughs at…until you ACTUALLY do it.  This is exactly what happened to Mr. Abedin. 

In 2001, Mr. Abedin took his family back to their old village in Mymensingh with their total savings of $4,000.  They bought 23 decimals of land where he constructed their tin-roof house.  With the money that he had left, he arranged to have 4 beds in the house hoping to make the place a hospital which provides free treatment for patients living in the village, considering there is no nearby clinic where any sick patient can be treated. 

Meanwhile, Mr. Abedin tried to contact many healthcare providers, doctors, and local paramedics.  Many doctors rejected his offer and so many took his idea as a joke.  He finally found a local paramedic to give patients first aid treatment.  The clinic provided pain killers, oral saline, paracetamol, metronidazol, antacid and de-wormers.

“With rest of the savings I opened a four-bed hospital in my house and named it after my daughter Momtaz,” said Joynal Abedin.

The Momtaz Hospital quickly caught the villagers’ attention and more and more patients showed up each day.

Mr. Abedin later found an MBBS doctor who had agreed to visit the hospital occasionally, as long as he got paid 500Taka each day he visited.  With a doctor, a paramedic, and a basic first aid kit, about a hundred patients visit each day.  All in need of care.  The patients that are under more serious conditions are directed to the main hospital which is 12miles away. 

With the urge to help his fellow villagers, Mr. Abedin went even further to open a free coaching class right beside the hospital for underprivileged children (about 50).  The classes are taught by 2 teachers who are being paid 3,500Taka monthly.  The subjects taught are basic Bangla, Arabic, English, and Math.

The news about Joynal Abedin’s successful clinic started spreading immediately and in 2004, Bangali social icon Abdullah Abu Sayeed donated  10,000 Taka and some medicines.  A year later, World Vision International provided the hospital with some medicines.  In the same year, 2005, a woman from the USA donated 70,000 taka ($1,000) to Mr. Abedin.  Finally in 2006, the social welfare and local administration in Bangladesh donated 30,000 taka ($430) to Momtaz hospital.

Where his hospital stands today

At a tiring age of 55, Joynal Abedin has not been in the healthy condition of being able to continue as a rickshaw puller anymore.  He spends most of his time close to his family and working hard trying to keep his charitable hospital and education center running.  Unfortunately, he has been running short in finance due to the monthly wages he provides to the two teachers giving them $100 a month.  Furthermore, the cost of medicine and other equipement have been a challenge.  In the past 5 years he hasn’t been getting much help.

Still optimistic and strong, Mr. Abedin says, “I want to cling to my goal till I breathe the last and seek nothing more for me and my family.”

"My dream is to convert this clinic into a full-fledged hospital with the help of the government and other donors."

The most unfortunate part about this hearty man is that he has been betrayed by several people who initially promised him help but later turned things against him trying to give him the image of a “greedy fraud” and even tried reporting him to the police as a “criminal”. Due to this reason, the idea of even asking for help haunts him. 

What can you do to help?

First and foremost, try remembering this man.  Spread good words that will inspire others to be like him.  News of accomplishment was first marked by “The Daily Star” and “Prothom Alo” in the year 2011.  If you want to help Mr. Abedin in any way financially or just by spreading good words about this man,  go ahead and “like” the group “Let’s Help Zainul Abedin” on Facebook to be updated and get information on where you can donate or maybe even visit Momtaz Hospital.  Prothom Alo takes care of the donations.  For more information contact me or the facebook group.

Let’s not make Joynul Abedin’s dream incomplete.  Let’s help Joynul Abedin!

Personal Note

I found news of this Bangladeshi icon while randomly surfing, yesterday.  What a SHAME.  Before I taunt others I want to remind MYSELF.  I never hear a single good news coming from this country.  Whenever I turn the tv on, or read the newspaper even facebook, I hear 99% devastating news.   Politics takes over half the damn news, which is why I refuse to READ or LISTEN.  I find talking about an issue with no beginning or end absolutely pointless! 

I don’t give a rat’s ass about what a political leader did to Bangladesh or what he/she plans on doing in the god damn future.  I don’t want to hear about educated decent once-known-to-be-generous people suddenly “betraying” Bangladesh.  We are really good at pointing out flaws aren’t we?

The last thing I wanna hear is that Joynul Abedin the rickshaw puller invested his entire savings on a charitable hospital and school, BUT later fooled his patients and students by giving them false sources, making them more corrupt, and eventually becoming a fraud who feeds off of good people’s money.  God forbid this ever became any level of a news, but this is what I fear the most! 

Joynul Abedin won the Sada Moner Manush (Man of Golden Heart) award in 2008.  Even if he didn’t win this award, my respect for this man would not move an inch.  During his decades of hardship pedaling the rickshaw in the heat and in the rain, not once did Mr. Abedin think of fame.  His intention was always pure.  I salute this humble man for even being the most modest individual up till now.  A selfless humble man in Bangladesh.

I am honored to even know about him.



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17 May 2011

Don't Hate on American Girls

Why do some people automatically assume that American girls are tramps?  Just because they heard a couple of distracting stories doesn't mean that's all that goes on with girls over there.  I've heard the same stories in other areas of this world so why put more emphasis on a girl from the US?  Seriously, everybody be hating on us.  We get it so bad..worse than European girls.  I just don't understand why it has always been that way. 

When my husband told my father-in-law about me for the first time, everything was ok, until some old friend of his warned him about American girls, telling him they're "danger".  Off went his sleep at night and i guess from that day on he had an image of me being some uncivilized airhead who would lead his son astray..until he finally got to know the real me.

From the time i turned 20 I've heard some guys saying that they will eventually go marry a girl from Bangladesh because the ones down here are not up to their family's standards.  So they mess around and go out with one or 2, even 3 nice american girls and eventually break their hearts, dump them make them realize how pathetic they really are and settle down with a "real desi girl" from the desh.  It's funny how even after all this, it's only the american girl that gets blamed for everything that happens.

Years back, a couple of bengalis once told me I lacked values.  Family values.  I was told that only because i was raised in the US.  They assumed that since I've been living there for so long, I know absolutely nothing about culture. That I was too "Americanized".Time to time that small, trivial little opinion of those people still gets to me.  Because those people also lived in America, not to mention they were my age.  I thought people of our generation would at least broaden their horizen a bit, and consider that this world is not just black and white.

Theres a minority that tends to generalize America, but isn't that how the world works?  It's always the bad guys that get more attention.  Just like how it is thought that Islam is not a religion of peace, but all about suicide bombing, or all blacks are criminals, that all white people in the world are racists and alcoholics. 

All American girls are not tramps. 




16 May 2011

I'm Back!

I'm back and ready to blog again!  It feels like a huge block of solid iron just got taken off my back.  I am at the edge of completing Swedish.  I've finished SFI, SAS grund, and now I am ready to get SAS A and B out of the way.  Then the entire process of learning the language will be complete!  I just can't wait! I don't know how much longer I can hold my patience but all I know is Allah has given me more than enough. 

I had my final exam last week for my 2nd to last course of the year.  At first it was a horrific experience.  It was an oral examination, something I really suck at even in english.  On top of that, it was with someone I have never seen before.  This teacher was my web teacher, who was apperently in Malmö, the teacher that graded all of my assignments for the term. So she pretty much knew how I sounded, wrote, thought, and so on but I hadn't the slightest clue about her.  So if i was sitting in an isolated test room in Stockholm waiting for her, how was she to examin me if she lived about 700 kilometers away from me.  Little did I know that the entire test would take place through a web cam. 

I don't do webcams.  I never had one, never wanted one, not exactly sure why, but I just never really found it neccessary.  Needless to say that the last person i would want to communicate through webcam is a stranger evaluating me in a different language.  Yes, i was a nervous wreck, and i looked pathetic on webcam, but i somehow mangaged to pass the neverending exam with a pleasantly high score by telling her about my life story and as much as I knew about IKEA!

Thank God it's all over!  Now I can relax!
Now I can blog! Yay!

29 April 2011

The Stay-at-home Wives/Moms

One of the biggest problems women have to face after marriage is the common complaints of being lazy and not getting a job to provide family support.  This is for the women who actually WORK hard at home and keep the family together.  I actually see several expat-women facing this situation in Sweden, especially since it's hard to even get a job not knowing how to speak Swedish fluently. 

There are many households where the husband's work is the only source of income for the family and unfortunately in many cases, the wife gets misunderstood as a gold-digger.  Of course there are gold-diggers and lazy wives out there who simply use their husband's hard work’s income to get their own pleasure, sometimes even cheat, but come on, let's stop with the generalizations.  There is good and evil MIXED all over this world and the worst thing one can do is categorize an innocent person into the wrong group.
This gets worse when a couple has kids.  Here’s a scenario.  Even if the family is financially stable, there will be times when the husband will completely lose it one day after coming home from a long day's work and let off that nasty temper concerning how he terribly hates how his wife sits at home never doing anything productive.  Truth is, that the wife spends the entire day taking care of the house, running errands, doing laundry and grocery, cooking and cleaning, upbringing their kids, helping her in-laws, and not saving a single minute just for herself.  Not even in the weekends.  Being both a good wife and a mother is a fulltime job for her which always happens to be overlooked.  She appreciates the financial support her husband gives to the family, but she needs to be appreciated too…instead of getting all the blames.
Bottom line is, things need to be mutual in a marriage and when I say mutual it does not necessarily mean having equal income.  It is much, much more than that.
We all know how great the economy is (sarcasm).  So I am sure a great percentage of stay-at-home moms/wives are undergoing this problem.  It’s so unfortunate to see how many marriages are failing for this reason. 
This one’s for all the faithful wives out there!


09 March 2011

A Thought of our Loved Ones

When you are living abroad and have family back home, an unexpected late-night phone call is the last thing you want.  My parents are all alone in the US now, and i have the rest of my family scattered in the US, Bangladesh and Belgium.  I miss my parents terribly, especially since I am the only child. 

Though I was strangely tired last night, I had the hardest time falling asleep.  When I finally did fall asleep, I had this hazy dream of my parents..it was an ordinary dream of my ordinary life before marriage.  Something I miss extremely.  Then suddenly in the darkness I heard constand vibrating.  By the time i woke up, my husband started mumbling half asleep, telling me to pick up the phone.  It was around 4 in the morning and the only places that the calls would possibly come from are Bangladesh and the US.  I picked up but they already hung up.  I went through the call list and it was Mom.

08 March 2011

Sarmila Bose the Culprit

Since it is National Women’s Day, I would like to share something with all of you guys.  I want to talk about a very educated woman who is in denial of a specific genocide that took place in Bangladesh.  With the amount of accurate and valued information from the time the war in 71 started to the respected writers who have written books of the factual incidents, along with sharp statistics, nobody can bend history.
If you're not familiar with the whole 1971 scene in Bangladesh then let me inform you.  You can relate it to Nanjing, Indonesia, or Rwanda.  This actually outnumbers Rwanda and Indonesia.
Before the independence of our motherland in '71, it was a part of Pakistan, known as East Pakistan.  During the fight for liberation and our mother language (Bangla), a mass number of young students, civilians, and soldiers died.  Many were killed grotesquely, most of which were women; women of all ages who were Bangladeshis and Refugees from India. 
Let’s go into further detail.  The genocide was taken place in East Pakistan (Bangladesh) by the Pakistani Army starting from March to December 1971.  The things that happened within these 9 months to the innocent East Pakistani Civilians resulted in a death toll going from 300,000 to 3,000,000 people.  Many men were taken by Pakistani soldiers and shot on the spot.  Many of you have respected family members who had been through this.  Out of the total, 200,000 to 400,000 women were RAPED.