Showing posts with label being desi. Show all posts
Showing posts with label being desi. Show all posts

16 March 2013

A Summer Event Not to Miss!


Is it just me or are we just about ready to leave this nasty winter behind???  One thing everybody loves about Stockholm are those beautiful bright nights in the summer, and what better way to make this year’s summer hot than by welcoming Dosti.se  with their fabulous event right in the heart of the city? 

Who are they?

The Dosti Team organizes entertaining Desi events for busy professionals ranging from ages 20-40 living in Sweden, Denmark, and Norway. The whole point with these events is to just feel good!  It’s as simple as that.  Chill out and take time out of your busy life and meet people who share similar backgrounds as you.  After all, the word dosti (in Urdu, Hindi, Bangla, Persian, and Turkish, etc.) means friendship.  Nothing boring about it. It’s a great way of networking!

Their previous desi event took place in the city of Gothenburg, Sweden on May 28th, 2011. 

Check out Dosti.se to know more about them as well as their upcoming events.  You can also listen to their interview done by the national radio stations P3 and P4, and even Expressen.

What’s happening this summer in Stockholm???

Desi Summer Mingle and Stand-up Comedy

The event will take place on the 1st of June under the dazzling city’s beautiful summer night at Södra Teatern.  Fabulous view of Stockholm, great upbeat music, Desi mingle, exclusive club and bar (non-alcoholic and alcoholic) and stand-up comedy by a secret comedian well known from ‘Norra Brunn’, ‘RAW comedy’ and ‘Moa Svan med gäster’  – lots of fun, so don’t miss out! Oh yeah, tickets will be prepaid so no queue! Those who want to stay on are welcome to boogie the night away at Club Outernational – FREE entry for Desi Summer Mingle Guests!

Date1st June 2013

Place:  Södra Teatern
Stockholm’s oldest theatre built in 1859, where music and entertainment from all around the  world have been appreciated for years. It has 7 stages, 5 bars, 3 terraces and 2 restaurants. 
The Desi Summer Mingle will take place on the top floor, “Sjuan”, with the highest public terrace and available bar serving both alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.

Station: Slussen or Medborgarplatsen.

Time:  Early Night event -The Stand-up Comedy and Mingle:  18:00-22:00
Late Night event - The after-party at Club Outernational (free entry for Desi Summer Mingle     guests)- located a few floors down: 22:00-1:00

Dining:  Make yourselves comfortable before the event with wonderful dining Södra Teatern provided at Etablissemanget. For more information go to: http://www.sodrateatern.com/en/Eat--Drink/

Tickets:  150kr. Age 20+ with ID. Tickets are very limited! Stay up to date about the ticket release by signing up for the newsletter at www.dosti.se or joining www.facebook.com/dostisweden

Please note that NO TICKETS WILL BE AVAILABLE AT THE DOOR.

Hurry and get them now!

For more information contact: info@dosti.se
Like their Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/dostisweden
And sign up to their newsletter at www.dosti.se


14 November 2012

Bangladeshi Rickshaw puller Helps the Poor


Bangladesh is one of the poorest and most corrupt countries in the world, and with that put in our mind; most of us look down upon our own kind.  Admit it or not, that is the plane ugly truth.  

We have this division of class in our own language.  There are 3 different ways of addressing a person based on their status of respect.   The most highly respected person is addressed by “apne” (translates to “you”).  The average person who is around your age or class would be addressed by “tumi” (translates to “you”).  The most informal and lowest class for mostly uneducated people is addressed by “tui” (also translates to you”).  Yea, they all mean “you”. 

The Rickshaw Puller builds a clinic

Quite ironic how we go around the world working among foreigners and complain about being discriminated, yet here we are taking a vacation to our motherland and calling out the rickshaw man across the street by “tui”.  No respect.  Even though that tired person might be your father’s age, and you are just half his age, it’s still “tui”.  “Tui jabi?” (You goin’?) “JABI?!” Sadly, this has generally been South Asia’s social norm.

Today I have an eye-opener story for people around the world, but most specifically for Bangladeshis and other desis of all ages to reflect upon.   I want to share one of the most inspirational stories of our times that awestruck me, about a rickshaw puller in Bangladesh.  A man who earned barely $6 on his “good days” for 14 tough years as a rickshaw puller in the insanely busy city of Dhaka, who made a free clinic that now treats hundreds of patients each day.  In addition, he provided a coaching center to educate underprivileged children.  He is Joynal Abedin, the loyal rickshaw puller.

Stop and think for a moment.  An old man who falls among the lowest and poorest level of class in one of the poorest countries in the world has accomplished a “world leader’s” task from scratch.  As Bangladeshi lawyer Nilufar Yesmin Biswas says, “Joynal Abedin is not only a man of golden heart, but also a slap on the faces of the greedy wealthy people of the country.”  I could not have expressed it any better!

The Story behind Joynal Abedin’s Dream

At age 30, Joynal Abedin’s doom’s day was marked on a dark rainy afternoon in his hometown called Taan Hashadia, Mymensingh, a northern village quite far away from Dhaka.  Joynal’s father had become extremely ill, so sick that he needed a doctor’s attention.  The big problem was, no nearby hospital or clinic existed where they lived.  The nearest medical center was 12 miles away, a 2-day’s walk.  He was a farm worker at the time with very little money and no source of transportation.  With the current circumstances in his life, he was unable to cure his father and so he passed away in his arms. 

The grief that followed his death kept haunting him.  He wanted to prove to others, but most importantly to himself, that he was not letting this go.  He didn’t want another individual to be in his place, seeing his/her loved one suffering and dying due to helplessness.  This was the beginning of his quest to providing a nearby free medical care center for the helpless.  Nothing was going to stop him now.

The Struggle behind Joynal Abedin’s Dream

Joynal Abedin and his wife, Lal Banu, left the village in Mymensingh after the devastating incident and came to the busy capital city of Dhaka.  With hardly any money in his pocket, no education, and cold sweaty hands, the man was overwhelmed by Dhaka’s lifestyle.

"When I landed in Dhaka it was a new experience for us. We were amazed by the size and energy of the city. Initially, we were not sure how we could survive there," remembered Mr. Abedin.

The couple struggled.  In search of employment, his wife finally was given the chance to work at a clinic.

Mr. Abedin was not qualified enough for any job and like many others in the country, he earned his living by becoming a rickshaw puller, “a job of shame” as most Bangladeshis would put it, and probably the hardest job especially in the capital city with its deadly street and air pollution, horrific unregulated traffic, road violence, and natural disasters.  Being honked, bullied, and verbally (sometimes even physically) abused by other road travelers and passengers while transporting passengers, heavy goods, sometimes animals,  even in the hot sweaty noon or dirty flash-flooded muddy roads were an every-day ritual Mr. Abedin went through for 14 long years.   A rickshaw puller’s one day worth of constant peddling gives no more than $6 a day, and that’s if he has luck.  There is no fixed rate when we travel in rickshaws, we always bargain.

Year after year, the family struggled, but even during their darkest times when money was most in need, the couple still managed to put aside a portion for savings.  Mr. Abedin says himself, "Sometimes my wife used to argue with me for not bringing enough money to run the family. But I always saved some money. Even during difficult times, I never touched my savings."

After 14 years of hard work, Mr. Abedin and his wife decided to go back to their village with their 2 young children and their life-long savings they had made in Dhaka,  a total of 2.84 lakh Taka, approximately $4,000. 

Joynal Abedin’s Big Move

It takes a lot of guts and a big heart to make “the move”.  The move that you had always clearly pictured in your dreams but the same one that society laughs at…until you ACTUALLY do it.  This is exactly what happened to Mr. Abedin. 

In 2001, Mr. Abedin took his family back to their old village in Mymensingh with their total savings of $4,000.  They bought 23 decimals of land where he constructed their tin-roof house.  With the money that he had left, he arranged to have 4 beds in the house hoping to make the place a hospital which provides free treatment for patients living in the village, considering there is no nearby clinic where any sick patient can be treated. 

Meanwhile, Mr. Abedin tried to contact many healthcare providers, doctors, and local paramedics.  Many doctors rejected his offer and so many took his idea as a joke.  He finally found a local paramedic to give patients first aid treatment.  The clinic provided pain killers, oral saline, paracetamol, metronidazol, antacid and de-wormers.

“With rest of the savings I opened a four-bed hospital in my house and named it after my daughter Momtaz,” said Joynal Abedin.

The Momtaz Hospital quickly caught the villagers’ attention and more and more patients showed up each day.

Mr. Abedin later found an MBBS doctor who had agreed to visit the hospital occasionally, as long as he got paid 500Taka each day he visited.  With a doctor, a paramedic, and a basic first aid kit, about a hundred patients visit each day.  All in need of care.  The patients that are under more serious conditions are directed to the main hospital which is 12miles away. 

With the urge to help his fellow villagers, Mr. Abedin went even further to open a free coaching class right beside the hospital for underprivileged children (about 50).  The classes are taught by 2 teachers who are being paid 3,500Taka monthly.  The subjects taught are basic Bangla, Arabic, English, and Math.

The news about Joynal Abedin’s successful clinic started spreading immediately and in 2004, Bangali social icon Abdullah Abu Sayeed donated  10,000 Taka and some medicines.  A year later, World Vision International provided the hospital with some medicines.  In the same year, 2005, a woman from the USA donated 70,000 taka ($1,000) to Mr. Abedin.  Finally in 2006, the social welfare and local administration in Bangladesh donated 30,000 taka ($430) to Momtaz hospital.

Where his hospital stands today

At a tiring age of 55, Joynal Abedin has not been in the healthy condition of being able to continue as a rickshaw puller anymore.  He spends most of his time close to his family and working hard trying to keep his charitable hospital and education center running.  Unfortunately, he has been running short in finance due to the monthly wages he provides to the two teachers giving them $100 a month.  Furthermore, the cost of medicine and other equipement have been a challenge.  In the past 5 years he hasn’t been getting much help.

Still optimistic and strong, Mr. Abedin says, “I want to cling to my goal till I breathe the last and seek nothing more for me and my family.”

"My dream is to convert this clinic into a full-fledged hospital with the help of the government and other donors."

The most unfortunate part about this hearty man is that he has been betrayed by several people who initially promised him help but later turned things against him trying to give him the image of a “greedy fraud” and even tried reporting him to the police as a “criminal”. Due to this reason, the idea of even asking for help haunts him. 

What can you do to help?

First and foremost, try remembering this man.  Spread good words that will inspire others to be like him.  News of accomplishment was first marked by “The Daily Star” and “Prothom Alo” in the year 2011.  If you want to help Mr. Abedin in any way financially or just by spreading good words about this man,  go ahead and “like” the group “Let’s Help Zainul Abedin” on Facebook to be updated and get information on where you can donate or maybe even visit Momtaz Hospital.  Prothom Alo takes care of the donations.  For more information contact me or the facebook group.

Let’s not make Joynul Abedin’s dream incomplete.  Let’s help Joynul Abedin!

Personal Note

I found news of this Bangladeshi icon while randomly surfing, yesterday.  What a SHAME.  Before I taunt others I want to remind MYSELF.  I never hear a single good news coming from this country.  Whenever I turn the tv on, or read the newspaper even facebook, I hear 99% devastating news.   Politics takes over half the damn news, which is why I refuse to READ or LISTEN.  I find talking about an issue with no beginning or end absolutely pointless! 

I don’t give a rat’s ass about what a political leader did to Bangladesh or what he/she plans on doing in the god damn future.  I don’t want to hear about educated decent once-known-to-be-generous people suddenly “betraying” Bangladesh.  We are really good at pointing out flaws aren’t we?

The last thing I wanna hear is that Joynul Abedin the rickshaw puller invested his entire savings on a charitable hospital and school, BUT later fooled his patients and students by giving them false sources, making them more corrupt, and eventually becoming a fraud who feeds off of good people’s money.  God forbid this ever became any level of a news, but this is what I fear the most! 

Joynul Abedin won the Sada Moner Manush (Man of Golden Heart) award in 2008.  Even if he didn’t win this award, my respect for this man would not move an inch.  During his decades of hardship pedaling the rickshaw in the heat and in the rain, not once did Mr. Abedin think of fame.  His intention was always pure.  I salute this humble man for even being the most modest individual up till now.  A selfless humble man in Bangladesh.

I am honored to even know about him.



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14 April 2011

Who's the FOB now?

When i was younger, I used to make fun of fobs, because my friends did it, and i thought it was cool so i turned out worse than them.  Now i think about it.  I made fun of people that were referred to as "fobs" because at the time, those kids stood out as typical desis who were only trying to adjust to their new surroundings.  People would laugh at fobs because they would have a strong accent when they talked english, and dress differently, think differently, not get jokes or the like.

Hmm, I live in Sweden now.  A place where desis seldom mention the word FOB.  When i speak this country's native language i can only imagine how big of an idiot i sound like.  When i dress like an awfully ordinary girl while the rest look their best I wonder if i stand out as an "immigrant".   When swedish conversations go on I have so much to say but don't have that many ways to express it with the limited boring words i know.  So now I'm the quiet girl once again...little ms. quiet munni all over again.  Wonderful.

Us desis, especially in the states, make fun of other desis' broken english.  Try coming here, and try speaking your broken swedish.  You will wonder why you ever laughed about so called "FOBS" that are probably or will probably be better off than any of us in the long-run. 

I first heard the word FOB when i was around 11.  I lived in Norcross, GA then.  All the white people started to move away up north and a lot of the latinos, blacks and desis started swirming in around that time.  Every other indian, bengali, or pakistani in my school was called a FOB.  Unless they were completely brainwashed and americanized, they would be picked on. 

I got older and it started getting worse.  I heard the term ABCD (American born confused desi).  Unlike some people, I was definitely not proud to be called one.  I wasn't confused! Deep inside i really hated the whole division within desis based on whether they were citizens or immigrants.  I would think, my parents were once immigrants.  Even after several years of living in America there are times when they still feel like 2nd class citizens.  Would they be FOBs?  What about now, with me?  Living in a place I am not so familiar with makes me a FOB?

It was stupid of me to even think that way before.  And it's sad how many southasians, mostly in the US, have this mentality.  I come to Sweden and meet tons of immigrants from places all over the world.  They all have different english accents but accent at this point doesn't really matter to us because we are only trying to communicate, be it in english or swedish.  So why is it such a big deal in the US?  Why would you generalize a certain group of people without knowing the half of it?   It just shows ignorance. 

So now I'm the girl with the funny accent, and boring clothes, aggressive driving, having those blond moments while everyone around me laughs and socialize in swedish.  The "typical desi housewife" which is every girl's nightmare.  I'm the outcast.  The immigrant.  I'm fresh off the boat.   

05 March 2011

Indian drama serials - the new drug

The evil jealous sister-in-law, the possesive mother-in-law, the cheating husband, the really dumb but tolerant wife...and it goes on and on and on.  Really plays with a person's emotions for nothing.

This whole drama serial business is just as popular and serious of a matter as drug addiction.   

Lets talk about the boss behind this sweet disaster, Ekta Kapoor.  She produces a countless number of dramas that you will come across while you are flipping through the musical and colorful indian channels.  Usually after 17:00 it all begins.  One serial after another.  The wives and mommies take some time out from their long tiring day and give their full attention to it.  The best part is that all of these never-ending dramas have just about the same story.  The slightly different beginning with the same old climax, and the same freakin ending.  Most of them at least.  Let's not forget the classic overdramatic, noisy sound effects (which are also the same) accompanied with the classic over-exaggerated look of betrayel on each character's dumbfounded face (again, lacking originality) that tend to slow the storyline down day after day.

To sum it all up, it's a big blob of crap, which the audience LOVE.   

23 February 2011

Common question asked to bengalis: Where are you really from?

Being a Desi, ur prone to be mistaken as the followign:  Latin American, , Middle Eastern, Etheopean, Oriental, European.   The first 2 hits the top of the list, Latin American, and Middle Eastern.  I've experienced  it myself.

In the US, the question for me was, "habla espanol?"  In Sweden, the most frequently thought of remark is, "You look like someone form my country, Iran."  I get every single guess EXCEPT bengali. 

So where exactly did our roots come from that we can easily get away with so many different nationalities around the world?  Lets go a bit deeper shall we?

Lets start with my home country, Bangladesh.  One of the first kinds of people were island inhabitors near present day Sri Lanka.  Then came poeple from the Medditeranean which might be the reason there are many of us who look of Arab or persian descent.   They moved around the 13th century to be civilized in the place which is now Bangladesh.  This is the reason why the majority of bangalis are Muslims.  We have some bengalis that look totally of oriental descent.  This is because later on, many smaller minority groups settled around certain areas of Bangladesh, such as the Chakmas, and poeple from Burma, and Mizu.  They live in the area of Chittagong in Bangladesh.  Lastly there were the people from Assam (northeast india), Khasi, and Santhal all living around the northwest and northeast of bangladesh.  Places like present day Sylhet in Bangladesh.

I come from indeed a very small country, but it is amazing to know how much diversity it consists when you look back into the roots.   There is a variation of looks, different dialacts which almost change the entire bengali language, different traditions. 

If you compare one bengali to another, there is a huge possiblity to find no common characteristic. 

So when a person from Spain starts speaking Spanish to me, I simply smile and apologize for being so clueless.  But it makes me smile.  Makes me feel good to fit into more nationalities.  

I love it when the person keeps guessing and never gets it right.  The list of countries keep increasing as i wait for them to say "Bangladesh" but they never do.  Thats when i represent this diverse little country of mine. 

I sure am proud to be a Bengali!