29 October 2012

Step-by-step in Sweden: U-turn


Oh how I despise U-turns.  My passengers find it even more irritating and end up blaming me for making such a stubborn choice which caused me to make such a sharp U-turn in the first place.  The worst part is when you end up being in the same place, realizing you have been wasting your critical time going around circles. 

Looking at my previous post “Step-by-step in Sweden: Checklist”, it seems as if I am getting absolutely nowhere.  I had 4 goals listed: 1, get a job, 2, get educated in Swedish, 3, get a Swedish driver’s license, and 4 get a permanent residence permit.   Among the 4, I checked #4.  So that’s deleted off my list.  Now I will add a new #4, and I will get back to that later.  Next, I half-checked #1 and #2 because, apparently, they were “in progress.”  Let’s not forget #3.  Something that will remain unchecked for a while.  Almost two months have passed and I will tell you all about my sudden U-turn which caused #1 through #3 to be fully unchecked. 

Never got the job
I thought I got hired by Lycamobile after that super short interview I had with the quiet Sri Lankan guys.  They sure did give me the date to start working, so I thought everything was final.  What I didn’t know that they had to get this “approval” from Lycamobile’s main office, which is in London, to get me started as an employee.  Weird.  If they didn’t get the approval to let someone work as marketing assistant, why post the position on Arbetsförmedlingen and many other job search engines in the first place?  So as the time approached for me to start working I called to check up on the whole approval status.  Every time I called, I would get the same reply: “We’re sorry, we can’t really say much about your schedule before getting the approval.  We have to wait for the approval.  We will let you know as soon as we get it.”  So my last try was just emailing them saying whenever they get the approval to let me know.  They said ok.  They didn’t know “oh, we’re sorry, the position is no longer available,” instead they just left me hanging.  I got the point.  It wasn’t going to happen.  I was not going to get the job. 

Never got the course
Yea remember I had big plans for starting this 5-month long receptionist course packet?  Well I didn’t get in.  I was qualified.  I just never got in.  Vuxenutbildningen are in charge of handling all the paper  works.  I despise them because they are so lazy and lack service.  They are actually kind of rude.  I called them a few times to know about the status of my application.  The one that was just sitting there for months.  Instead of patiently listening to my simple problem, they interrupt me and treat me like some illiterate naïve stranger who has no idea about how the system works.  All I know is there system sucks.  I get infuriated after getting a letter by mail the day before my course starts, letting me know that I never got in because there were too many people who applied for the same course.  Even though I did apply early, and I did have all the requirements, I did not get in.  Thanks for letting me know about that the day before class starts. 

Driver’s license
I heard driving tests outside of the main city are not as tough.  Whenever I decide to take the test (which will NOT be this year) I will definitely take it outside of the city.  Meanwhile I’ll stick to walking.  It’s better for me anyway. 
My new #4  Changing my last name
I’m married but my name is still the same.  I was waiting for my permanent residency which I got.  I need to contact Skatteverket to get my last name as the same as my husband’s.  I was thinking more about the future when we have kids.  I need to do that before this year ends.

Refreshing the to-do list
1.       Get a Job
I got in contact with a job coach.  She helped me with my CV and personal letter in Swedish.  Now she’s going to help me look for jobs.  Very helpful.
Also, I have this interview on Sunday afternoon to work at the post office.  I told them I was interested in working as a seasonal employee.  Christmas is coming, who knows, maybe ill be lucky enough to finally work in this country.
2.       Get an education
I applied to a few universities to begin the nursing program starting spring semester 2013.  They are extremely selective, and they will definitely take the smart swedes here first.  I am still praying to get in.  It’s a 3-year program which I really want to do.  I’m waiting for the result.
3.       Get a Swedish driver’s license
4.       Change my last name

I've been sick lately.  That’s just the cherry on top.  No, wait.  The cherry on top is ….winter is around the corner.  Here I am sitting by the window typing, and at times, glancing outside.  The strong cold wind is separating the vibrant autumn leaves from their twigs.  Grey clouds spread like a thick blanket on top of freezing cold Sweden.  It’s 3pm, but it feels more like 7pm.  Darkness is taking over once again.  So depressing.

15 October 2012

Story of Aryan 9

Aryan loves his weirdly out-dated, annoying, american-desi family.  He can't imagine living without them.  Especially since his mom still cleans after his mess and feeds him new meals every damn day.  But for the past couple of weeks he has been thinking, "i need a break from these guys"....

He finally paid off his college loans and was ready to chill..


So he was thinking, why not travel and try new things?
He decided to plan the first trip with his old buddy Sam. 
Now Sam's real name is Sammiuddin Shah but he likes keeping things short and sweet.  He's also a bangali-american but he hates bangalies....with the exception of Aryan..his childhood buddy.
Sam does not like Desis, or so he says.  "I don't understand bangali girls."  He likes everything BUT bangali...he's got a big thing for blonds...
So that's Sam.  The Desi who hates all Desis....with the exception of Aryan.


So Sam suggests a place in the world where he thinks the hottest babes are found.

Oh how many times do you have to be told Aryan! 


Aryan:  huh?


oh Aryan......
may God help you.

tbc....









03 October 2012

Stockholm Hospitals need to get it together - inside story of Sara

"I have so much pain that I faint from pain. Seven times on Friday, two on Saturday and four yesterday. I have also fallen out of the wheelchair once, out of bed three times, most recently this morning at six ... Had been in pain from hell, the one and a half hours ..."

Today I want to share the story of an unfortunate patient who is currently suffering day and night in the Huddinge Hospital of Stockholm.  As we sit here, with our sane minds, all healthy and normal, carrying out our every-day duties in life, Sara, a single mother of 3, is fighting for her life, and the medical staff is not trying hard enough to look back at her even twice.  

About a year ago, Sara had a failed gastric bypass surgery which resulted in massive internal bleeding, leading to excessive weight loss.  She lost about 80kg within  a year which puts her to barely 40kg now; a 38-year-old mother of 3.  

Furthermore, she suffers from constant cluster migraines.  For those who are not familiar with this, these are the worst types of headaches a human being can experience.  Imagine, it is said to be worse than getting burnt, having bones broken, or childbirth.  Just think of the pain.  And to add on to that, neurologists in Huddinge Hospital classified Sara's scenario as the worst case of cluster migraines in Swedish history.  

Her failed bypass surgery and cluster migraines resulted in major neurological damage which led to memory loss and also made her develop anorexia.  So now she can hardly eat or drink anything unless it's in very small amounts.

Sara has been in the Huddinge Hospital for several weeks now, and during the past weeks she hasn't been re-hydrated or fed properly.  Her body is undergoing severe dehydration and she will soon be skin and bones.  She needs a special mattress, which had been promised to her but never came, just to lie on because her vertebrae sticks out  and hits the base of the ordinary mattresses giving her stinging pain while laying down.  

The most unbearable of all, Sara has been put off of all pain relievers so she has no hope of having her pain reduced at all.  

Sara was initially on Morphine but she was cut off from that because the pain reliever actually triggers headaches, so she was prescribed a weaker painkiller by the drop.  When her attacks came, they gave her sleeping pills and little oxygen which does not seem to help at all.  Everything she takes in are through tubes.  Food, water, pain relievers.  One night she had a seizure and the tube went out, and the only entrance she had to take in the pain reliever got  infected causing the vessel to rupture.  

"There are no more vessels to put a needle in when I'm totally down stung on both arms and feet. Needing a PICC line, but no referral has been sent. Referral to a dietician should have gone away on Sunday, last week ... a week and a half ago...No one has emerged."

"The day before yesterday, I was asked if I wanted something to eat, at half past eight in the evening. It was the first time all day I was offered food ..."

"I have so much pain that I faint from pain. Seven times on Friday, two on Saturday and four yesterday. I have also fallen out of the wheelchair once, out of bed three times, most recently this morning at six ... Had been in pain from hell, the one and a half hours ..."

Medical staffs all over Sweden need to start prioritizing.  This is not the first time we are hearing about making chronic patients wait for nothing. (http://www.dn.se/nyheter/sverige/vantetiderna-skiljer-stort-for-cancervard

This is a call for help!

For those of you who live in Sweden, I kindly request you to participate in the petition for giving Huddinge Sjukhus a wake-up call by taking care of a patient and prioritizing before it is too late.  Simply go to this website, http://namninsamling.se/index.php#.UGwnzE3MhoE, scroll down to the red dotted box and put your name and city you reside in. THAT IS ALL.  

For the rest of you who are reading this, please keep Sara in your prayers.  Thank God for everything we are blessed with and pray for Sara.  That is the least we can do.  

Thank you.